It’s HuHot Mongolian grill.

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Just needing some emotional support. Went to my favorite restaurant for the first time since being diagnosed celiac. It’s HuHot Mongolian grill. Anyway I researched ahead of time and switched up what I got so I don’t get glutened. That’s not the problem. Problem for me is the emotional feelings as I watch my food being cooked so carefully, but so segregated from the others. I appreciate the effort they make, but I just feel so different. Hoping this makes sense. I’m one who always wants to blend into the crowd and not be noticed. How do you get past the standing out now? Don’t get me wrong I would take it any day over the symptoms and health problems.

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Krysta 3 years 15 Answers 443 views 0

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  1. I honestly am my own cheerleader. I take care of folks with disabilities and we stand out all the time,with great awesomeness! If everyone was the same the world would be boring. So take pride in yourself for taking care of yourself. There are people out there that risk their lives and a few days of being sick so they don’t stand out.

  2. It’s okay to feel this way. It’s a big lifestyle change. Like any change, you’re going to get used to it over time and it will begin to feel more natural.

  3. Google grief and grieving.

  4. It’s perfectly normal to feel that way! I almost literally burst into tears the 1st and only time I’ve been out with coworkers post dx bc of embarrassment and feeling isolated.

  5. it is terrible but lots better than being glutened!

  6. I feel like this a lot. Especially eating out and I can’t have anything that I would have ate before. It’s hard.

  7. I am EXACTLY the same way. I HATE standing out and being the “special snowflake”. That’s the toughest part of this Celiac thing for me. I’m getting used to it, and I don’t get as nervous before going out to eat now (I used to practice in front of the mirror what I’d say to the waitress, etc, I kid you not) but I still hate it.

  8. I don’t usually have much problem with standing out. Usually if I feel bad it’s because I’m putting the cooks to extra work because of me when I’m sure it’s already a very hectic and stressful job. I only have 3 restaurants im willing to eat at though due to other glutennings, so if I’m forced to go elsewhere for a party or something I just don’t eat, which is very boring. So more often than not I’m bored more than anything :/

  9. This is so accurate. I honestly feel like a big part of it is because Gluten Free has become like a new “trend” so people and places are forgetting that people with Celiac Disease are not a part of that trend. It’s not like a vegan movement or to try and make a difference or prove a point (no offense we’re vegetarian too just an example) but I have definitely been places where they see it as some kind of inconvenience, and it’s so embarrassing and uncomfortable. It does add extra work, and it does stand out. It’s hard, but it is what it is. It’s worth not being sick. And to have someone else find that inconvenient is just silly if only they knew.

  10. I feel this way too, part of the reason I like this group so much. It doesn’t feel “fair” to me but I know we are ultimately responsible for our own well being. Just know you’re not alone ❤️

    PS I love your profile picture

  11. I feel the same way. I’ve have always been singled out due to being small and now this. Would just like to feel normal.

  12. You just cry. Don’t tell yourself it’s silly because it’s not. You have lost something. You need to grieve before you can move on. I promise you it really does get easier. I’m 5 yrs in and it’s not a big deal anymore. My family has adjusted (they need time too) and are supportive. And I have a couple of restaurants now that I know I can trust. Shopping is easy peasy now. It gets better!

  13. I have actually whispered to the waiter/waitress if they have a gluten free menu. I try to avoid eating out in general.

  14. I totally understand this feeling, since I face it any time I go to Hibachi. The head chef makes my food separate before he touches ANYTHING with gluten. Honestly, I just have to remind myself that being singled out like I am when he’s making my food is better than me getting glutened and going to the ER. Plus, it helps that the chef tells the entire table before he starts that he has to make mine first because I have specific dietary restrictions and I’ll die if he doesn’t. The looks I get are so sympathetic, and it’s like everybody gets it even though the chef is being dramatic.

  15. I understand how you feel, i feel so pushed out of society just walking around a supermarket, knowing that I’m not allowed majority of things there that I had before. It is an emotional adjustment but like most things, gets easier with practice

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