She bites herself super hard randomly


Quick question everyone, my best friends daughter bites herself super hard randomly and leaves marks on her arm or hands. Any idea what this could be? She isn’t always mad when she does it which I’ve never seen any kid do it. I’m so confused on why and her mom has no idea either. Has anyone else seen this? Figured I would ask here first since you guys have helped me so much!

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Bobbi 3 years 25 Answers 645 views 0

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  1. As a retired teacher I have some input on this. The child might be getting "negative attention" or she might have a disorder in which she might not be feeling any pain. A doctor & therapist should be consulted.

  2. I know the negative attention couldn't be possible unless it's at daycare since I'm with them most of the time.

  3. Self harm in children could be indicative of autism spectrum disorder?

  4. This might help

    Dear Biter’s Mom,

    Researchers suspect that the self-injury causes the release of neurotransmitters that have a self-soothing effectThere are several reasons that small children will self-injure.

    Some children will do it as an attention-seeking behavior. They hope to deflect a parent or caregiver’s anger and invoke their sympathy instead. In these cases it is important not to reinforce the child’s behavior by responding with sympathy and concern. Instead a parent should exhibit calm detachment. For example, they might say, “You can bite yourself if you want, but you still need to clean your room,” or “. . . to go to bed,” etc.

    Other children will use self-harm in an educational setting in response to demands they perceive as overwhelming. In such a case, self-injury is a way of relieving their performance anxiety and lowering the expectations being placed on them.

    Some children employ self-injury in a time of stress or emotional distress as a method of calming themselves down. Researchers suspect that the self-injury causes the release of neurotransmitters that have a self-soothing effect. It sounds like this may be the case with your son, who self-harmed during a punishment.

    The most common self-harming behaviors among small children are biting oneself, scratching oneself, head-banging, excessive picking at skin or scars, and hair-pulling.

    While an isolated incident of self-harm is not cause for undue concern, a pattern of self-harm during times of stress is definitely something that should be evaluated by a child psychologist in order to determine whether the child is at risk for serious self-injury. Furthermore self-injury may also be an early warning sign of an underlying emotional disorder such as anxiety disorder or PDD (pervasive developmental delay). In these cases, therapy is necessary to help a child learn appropriate self-soothing behaviors.

    Although encountering self-harming behavior among their children is a scary and alarming experience for parents, it is actually not an uncommon one. A parent who is able to remain calm in the face of self-injurious behavior will be the most effective at dealing with it as well.

  5. It's a symptom of Sensory Processing Disorder. She's looking for sensory regulation and doesn't know how to regulate appropriately. Please check into SPD.

  6. Biting stimulates the nervous system. Often kids bite their clothes to do this too. Body work is essential.

  7. How old is the child?It could also be teething or earache

  8. Is she getting attention from parents for it? Could inadvertently be positive reinforcement (adding something: biting; and getting reinforced for it with attention) she could also need sensory stimulation, maybe massaging her hands or give her hard clay to manipulate.

  9. No, she doesn't give her attention for it, just gets the bite released.

  10. i would agree with spd order…i work with kids this age ..i have been in child care for over 10 yrs and work among therapist ..

  11. its more of releasing frustration or being over stimulated.
    .since their body doesnt know how to process it then they do things to get rid of the pent up energy

  12. I've worked with a LOT of kids in that age group. With the details you provided and nothing else, I'd say that she just does it simply because she's two. 🙂 Two year olds are weird explorers of everything they can get ahold of- I once treated a two year old who sincerely enjoyed eating poop from the diapers of his peers.
    Definitely be on the lookout for a spectrum disorder (such as autism) or a neurological disorder, but like I said, with simply that info, I tend to think it may be her age.
    Also, there are things you can buy that a kid can safely wear as a "necklace" and bite on it when they feel the urge to bite into something, which is common for two year olds. It's a safe, foamy textured thing that is pretty useful. It can also help to start encouraging chewier foods, like a piece of fruit leather, to satiate that need to chew/bite. Good luck!!

  13. I used to do that. For me it was frustration/anxiety and the biting relieved it somewhat.

  14. Parents divorced? Are there both involved Mom and dad in the home?

  15. Her father has never been in her life Lisa. Just her momma and grandparents and me.

  16. Hugs, and lots of them. Only thing that ever seemed to work for my kids.

  17. To the therapists, would you include nail biting in SPD?

  18. parasites or other "bugs" can make you do things that are self disetructive, .. bartonella, babs

  19. Nail biting as a fixation or a repetitive action could be indicative of SPD, but it's also a common nervous habit. It would depend on the frequency and what triggers the nail biting.

  20. Could be a nervous tic…

  21. Bobbi Hoff – I would suspect that is your answer. I've never met a kid that isn't affected by their mother or father who made a poor choice to make a baby with (ie; father not involved). I've also never met a kid that isn't affected by divorce, absent parents, parents dating, and parents drama in a kids life. Family counseling could help.

  22. For the SPD, are there recommended coping activities to transition the child away from harmful actions to more appropriate actions. I like the idea of the necklace, but I am not sure that is a long term solution to help them identify more appropriate coping activities. I am not sure if that makes sense, but if the sqweezing the clay releases the same neurotransmitters and feel like that is a more appropriate activity that can be transitioned to other things than simply changing an item that they are biting?

  23. I used to do that as a release for frustration. To this day, I love the feeling of biting. I know that sounds crazy, but if I bite my husband in a playful way, it is hard to stop myself from biting really hard and not stopping (same goes for myself). It is just something that kicks in during the bite. I remember this exact same feeling when I was younger. It's a joke that maybe I am part vampire… I do not have any issues other than typical anxiety which is getting better. I've never been on any meds, never diagnosed with anything. Just experienced some depression during my childhood and younger 20's. My parents divorced when I was 3. My suggestion is to not pay any attention to it. If it were one if my four children, I would not make anything out of it unless there were other things leading me to believe there is an issue.

  24. It was mostly B6/magnesium deficiency here, also low zinc.

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